1. Have you ever included a white guy in your sex games BEFORE you became turned on to black?

We were swingers first, but our fantasy was always about me with black men. I think we were about 3 months into the swinging lifestyle when I realized it was not going to work swapping only with the white husbands of other women my husband was sleeping with. So we found the interracial swinging group and found that most of the black men were single. Occasionally there was a well hung white man or two, but they quickly became an afterthought.

2. How did your first black experience occur?

It was Christmas Eve 2003, and my birthday. We went out to a party on my 35th birthday. I had been chatting with a gorgeous black man online and shared photos. I thought it was fun and a big tease. Little did I know that my husband and he were talking on the side. The guy was a gentleman and did not want to see me if I was not going to do anything. After two years of chat he thought I would never have the courage to go through with it. And he was right. If I had known what was going to happen, I would have chickened out. He got me drunk and I was a little loose and told me he had a surprise for me. I think I knew all along what was going to happen. When he left I downed a couple of glasses of champagne and when he returned with my lover I immediately took to him. We kissed and his finger was in my pussy within two minutes and within 5 minutes his cock was in my mouth.

3. What was the most exciting thing about this experience? (For the Woman.)

Just finally seeing this Adonis's body and having his touch. He was so strong and commanding as a lover and his cock was so gorgeous. I found myself worshiping it right from the start. His tongue and then his cock just made my body go limp. Losing control to a man and pleasing him with my body was so powerful. I couldn't believe it. It was better than I ever imagined it would be. It was scary yet it felt so good. I knew I had to have him again and again. I had never had sex like that before. It is funny because now when I watch that video it is like I wasn't even there. It was an incredible dream. It was the most incredible birthday present at the time and it is now the way I celebrate my birthday every year with my own sexual eggnog before Christmas.

4. What was the most exciting thing about this experience? (For the man.)

Rebecca is such a control freak in real life. She is also very reserved as a lover. That night she came alive. I had never seen her have that many orgasms. Her cries of joy and her dirty talk were amazing. Her normally quiet demeanor during sex turned into loud uncontrollable screams. If her lover did not have to go home, she would have kept him all night. The other thing is that she immediately trusted this man and pulled off his condom halfway through. It was dangerous, but I could tell she threw out all caution and just took it! This was a letter I wrote you back then.

For me, you have to know Rebecca in real life to appreciate this. People who know her think she is a prudish conservative woman and most likely would never believe this ruthless businesswoman from a highly educated and high society background would let her hair down and dance in strip clubs and have extramarital affairs. Even after over a decade of doing this, what I love is that she always is still innocent and hesitant. She always says she is not going to do it bare or let them cum inside her or walk around half naked, but once she is engaged with her black lovers, she begs for all of the things that she says she'd never do. To see that contrast it is like she has been possessed by black cock. For me it is still amazing that she does this. When we first got into this she even said she'd try it just once. And look at her now!

Honestly, I do love watching her more than ever because she now truly belongs to black men. It makes it even hotter to me that I don't have any control over her body or activities. She is an even stronger and more independent woman because of it. Her sexual desire today is stronger than she was at age 18, 28 or 38. I could never have made her this way.

5. What are the things you enjoy doing most with black guys (and why?)

Well overall I like making love. Over time I just like being with a man and living this new life. We might go on a date and see a movie or have a nice dinner or traveling. To me it is not just about a one night stand, It is about having real relationships. My main lovers are always men that I can see on a whim and have a great time. What I love at the end of the night is being the woman they want whether it is a wanton white slutwife or a submissive woman or a loving partner. Sometimes we still go out and have swinging sex, but in the end I love waking up the next morning with the sweet smell of sex and his huge body on top of me and recalling the incredible night of passion we just had. Now if this question is about sex, I do have to admit that I love that black men are strong and powerful lovers and take what they want. I do like being overwhelmed and taking on multiple lovers as they just take me.

6. Are you into domination/humiliation? (This question is for both of you.)

I don't like to dominate. I do that in real life. I prefer to have my lover tell me what he wants. My lovers don't like to hurt me, but they do like aggressive loving as do I. I have been bound and I do like it, but I prefer that I be gangbanged so that I can do things with my arms and legs rather than to be held down by ropes.

I have been handcuffed to a bed all day. Once when I was at AVN, my husband gave guys my room number and they got to have sex with me and film (and let me go to the bathroom). When I filmed another time in Vegas with the DFWKnight it was nice to just be the house Vixen and film with every guy who walked in the door.

As far as humiliation. As long as it isn't hurtful. I don't like being called dirty words as long as they make me feel naughty and sexy. I also have had words written on me. I have walked around on a hotel floor naked along with other white wives with cum dripping out of me (nobody saw fortunately). I also have driven home naked back to my husband. Oh and there is nothing wrong with hard spankings and pulling hair during sex. I bet I have left nail marks in the backs of many lovers. I have worn leashes and dog collars too.

I do not like humiliating my husband. That is not a turn on to me. I know a lot of cuckold men like that, but it is not part of my lifestyle or that of my lovers. My lovers are not into seeing me being insulted to other people. We might talk dirty to each other, but when I have sex with them, this is not porn you are watching. I do truly love these men and take it personal when they cum. I want them to know that I appreciate them giving themselves to me and I know they love giving me their cum. If that is humiliation or domination, that is fine, but I see it as submitting to love.

7. Do you prefer hubby to just watch or join in? (and why?)

Neither. He used to film me, but I felt uncomfortable and I hated the cameras and videos and the feeling of a non-participant walking around the bed jerking off. I also felt reserved and couldn't relax and cum when he was around. Eventually I told him I didn't want him along. He was fine with it as long as I videotaped it all for him. Also, this is a more passionate kind of sex. The two kinds of love making were different. I could never focus on his touching me a certain way when someone else is touching me a different way. I even hired a good female friend of mine to take photos sometimes.

8. As hubby, do you prefer to watch or join in?

I prefer to watch, but as she said, I like to watch later. I don't care so much now anyway. Now she just goes and sometimes I had no idea until she comes back. We haven't had sex in many years now and each have other primary partners who serve as surrogate primary lovers.

9. Rough estimate - how many black guys have you been with (and how many white?)

Oh that is too hard. I have tried this many times. I have had nights where I know I slept with at least 12-15 people, but even blacked out. Between swinging and my husband, maybe 12 non-black men. As far as black men it has to be somewhere between 80-100 if not more.

10. Do you use condoms or do you prefer unprotected sex?

These days it is ALL bareback. I have a closed group of lovers who I take care of and have an open honest relationship with. We are all professionals and get tested regularly, but for the last few years I have not had sex with anyone but them. And yes I prefer unprotected sex. Feeling their cum shoot deep inside me as they let out their big roar is so amazing. Oh and the thought of being bred by a black man is a secret turn-on for me.

If I do meet a new person he would have to have been tested and I also would like to se that he has done some work already. I don't want any newbies.

11. Is there anything you wouldn't do with black guys?

If there is, I haven't seen it yet. I thought I wouldn't do anal, and I have done it. I thought I'd never do double penetration and I've done that. I thought I'd never spend a week being someone's lover and I have. In fact, I now live predominantly with one of my lovers kind of like husband and wife. It is really amazing. He is really becoming more than just someone I have great sexual chemistry with. We are great friends and there is no doubt that if we had met when I was in college, I would have married him instead.

12. Does hubby like clean up duties? If so, on you only or the lovers too?

That falls in the humiliation category and I would have to say absolutely not. If anything, my lovers and I clean up each other. I usually make sure his cum stays deep inside me all night long. If he wants to cum again and give me a fresh load, I love it. I also usually swallow every last bit of my lover's cum.

13. Anything else you would like to add?

Yes, I have a few things. First, if you have any additional questions, send them to Dark Cavern's Ask A MILF section by sending me an email to Please make sure to put ASK A MILF in the Subject Header. I will answer the questions in that section.

Secondly, I do have a WEBSITE you can visit to see all my material that I choose to share. I have maintained the website since July 2003 and it was created to manage the content respectfully and to maintain a level of professionalism and privacy. While the interracial lifestyle is still considered by many people (both black and white) to be taboo, I do not find it to be that way. It is a beautiful thing. That said, it is something that I do hope more people begin to accept in a beautiful way. I think the contrasts of skin tones and body types is a beautiful thing.

Third, I do work with many men and women who have risked their privacy to enjoy this lifestyle with me. They and the many other women on the web and Dark Cavern take a risk by putting their material on the web. Please do not share the material freely elsewhere where their Friends, family and colleagues might find the material. Respect people's privacy and their hard work. I created my website for a nominal fee to make sure people who wanted to see material were not just careless with it.

The best part about my website is hearing from people and developing relationships online with those people and letting them live my life virtually with me. To me that is better than someone randomly looking at my material and my never knowing who they are. I have been writing to some people for over a decade. That is longer than some people have been married. I want you all to care about me as a person just as much as I would like to care for you!

Love Rebecca