As with any group or large enough community, the depth and type of spiritual philosophies among swingers varies greatly. A common response given by swingers to moral and philosophical objections is that there is a difference between having sex and making love. Contradictorily, this is one of the main objections that religious groups have to swinging: namely, that this distinction should not exist. Swingers differentiate between fun and friendship, and the love and companionship provided by their existing relationship. Thus, though swingers may have many sexual relationships, only a single emotional relationship exists. Although many close friendships are formed within the swinging community, swingers often feel that nothing is more important to them than their relationship with their own partner. The intimate friendships formed among swingers strengthen the primary relationship, rather than damage it. Swingers often claim that the sex they have is more intimate (rather than less intimate) because they are with a partner who encourages them to fulfill their fantasies; therefore, the partner is so confident in the relationship that jealousy is not an issue. Swingers also claim that swinging makes infidelity less likely, as they know they can have sexual contact with others with their partner's consent. Various responses exist to those who object to swinging on the basis of their faith. Many swingers feel that their activities in their own homes or private clubs, simply put, are not for others to judge. Others believe that as long as they remain in love and consider their relationships to be sacred, any playing they do does not contradict the sanctity of their relationships, and is consistent with their spiritual values. In addition to the above responses two additional arguments are made. The first being that it is the couple that defines cheating. As long as the couple has a definition, develops boundaries, and stays within their boundaries no cheating has occurred. Secondly some will argue that the definition of adultery is incongruent with the original definition. The original definition of adultery stated that adultery occurred if a married woman had sex outside of marriage. It excluded a married man who had sex with a single, not married, woman or single women.
R.W from Berlin Germany
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