Chapter 3
What Cuckolding Wives Want
"I could write a book! He is a fantastic Lover... The physical thing is absolutely incredible. It's the major thing, even with all this intellectual closeness... It's primarily, you know, a good fuck... He has really opened me up as a Lover even more than my first. I do things with him that I can't do at home." ("The Dangerous Passion," David Buss)
What cuckolding wives want-in a word-are orgasms! The study by David Buss found that "Women rated experiencing sexual gratification with an affair partner to be one of the most important benefits of an extramarital affair. Orgasms in particular seem especially important as women rate these as more beneficial than merely receiving sexual gratification."
One woman described Her experience with Her Lover this way, "Sometimes when I have four or five multiple orgasms, the first one is nice and the last ones are almost continuous. It builds until my fingers and toes tingle. I can feel it in my teeth and hair." Notice the total focus on Her pleasure and the absence of cuckold hubby in this picture! Another said, "I love to feel like a real woman in the arms of a real man, not a sissy wimp like my husband." She said, "I am like an animal thinking of nothing but the steel-hard cock pleasuring me," adding that "I experience orgasm after orgasm, over and over, like waves of hot lava flowing through my body."
However, before this can happen, some wives need to be assured that their husbands are OK with this and won't go ballistic, and that this is not just a ruse that enables their husbands to get other women. After all, being cuckolded is something that jealous men have guarded against for millennia through threats and actual acts of violence. Men are notorious "mate-guarders." Men who encourage their wives to cuckold them may work on Her for years before She feels safe enough or convinced enough that Her husband is sincere. One woman who finally took the plunge after hounding from Her husband said he convinced Her of his sincerity to be faithful through his "daily undying love and devotion." She also overcame Her insecurity quickly about Her attractiveness to other men. She said that She became so motivated that She "lost two dress sizes" after finally deciding to cuckold Her husband.
Once it happens though, many wives are very happy they did it. One cuckolding wife talks about Her wonderful life, saying, "My husband used to pester me and pester me to have sex with other men and dominate him and now he got what he asked for and I always get my cake and get to eat it too in a very clean house that he keeps spotless for me." Another said, "I am enjoying the best sex in my life as a result of my husband's continuous efforts to encourage me to have sex with other men." And yet another wife said, "The first time I did it because hubby begged me too; the next 200 times were because I loved it soooo much."
Cuckolding also allows a wife to act-for lack of a better word-as a "slut," or as a woman who really enjoys good sex and who isn't afraid to be Her naturally promiscuous self. Many women learn early that men like to date "sluts", but want to marry a "nice girl." For this reason, many wives are reluctant to show their promiscuous slutty side around their husband. An exciting Lover who gives Her attention and makes Her feel beautiful and desirable releases the pent-up sexual animal within Her. She becomes an uninhibited slut for Her Lover doing things with him that She would never do with Her hubby.
Many wives are clearly in it for the delicious orgasms that come from great sex, total freedom, and sense of empowerment they feel. They also like the attention, and being made to feel beautiful and sexually desirable. Many seize the power and take sexual control, get kinky (talk dirty, take anal, or give oral), and a few even get a submissive slave out of cuckold hubby in the bargain.
In general though, wives appear to be a little more conservative than their kinky hubbies. They like plain straight sex and oral, and sometimes anal or double penetration. They also more often than not, like to play as a couple, or have hubby present. This provides a measure of safety and also enables "joint fun" by allowing hubby to participate by watching, listening, or even joining in with "sloppy seconds" or clean-up duties.
Cuckold hubbies may also get to masturbate during or after his wife and Lover are done. Some wives are really turned on by watching their hubby masturbate while She is with Her Lover. It's assurance that he is turned on by it and likes watching Her.
The Lure of Big Cocks
Wives who cuckold also develop a taste for big fat dicks-maybe even getting addicted to them in the process. One cuckoldress said that She had a complete change in Her attitude about dick size and cum. Before, She said, "I didn't care about size, and cum was just a messy nuisance." Now, She says, "I crave big dicks and loads of cum"!
An examination of thousands of ads from wives seeking Lovers reveals that virtually all of them seek large cocked men with words like, "well-hung," "very well-endowed," "8 inches plus, and thick." Hardly any of them asks for a Lover with a small or even average endowment. As one wife said, "As for size does not count, that's cool for my husband, but in a Lover I want a massive man." Another, who also wants a big cock, said, "If I'm going to do this I might as well get something out of it."
This question of "is bigger better?" will be explored in greater detail in a later chapter, but it is clearly something that cuckolding wives seek. One wife said that a big cock can "fuck me properly, the way I deserve." Another said she liked holding and sucking a big thick Black dick because "It is just like a big Black lollipop." Yet another carries a cloth sewing tape measure in Her purse to measure the men She is with. She has had men ranging from 8.25"x6.5" to 11"x8" in length and girth! Some were so large that condoms only fit half way and some of them broke! One woman with a small cocked (4.5") hubby said, "A real turn on for me is the contrast of size-to go from my husband's tiny penis to the large Black penis of a Lover is incredible."
Wives also want their Lovers to be tall, attractive, and fit. As one cuckolding wife says, "I like my men long and lean, big and Black, strong and sexy." Another says She wants Lovers who are "clean, young, and very hung."
Taking Care of Hubby with A Dose of Humiliation
However, it appears that successful cuckold relationships are a two-away street. Wives love the attention, their sexual power, and of course, the wonderful orgasms. But, if they are smart, they don't forget their cuckold hubby's needs for fulfillment either, including his need for a dose of humiliation. Having hubby watch sometimes provides that humiliation. As one wife says, "I love to fuck hung Black men while my husband watches me." She says, "His humiliation as his wife becomes a slut for a Black man just adds to the pleasure." One attractive blonde wife says "I want a Lover who will turn me into a Black cock slut and whore while my hubby watches." She says, "I want hard core aggressive sex," and, "No holes are barred." Another says She really gets off on being a slut in front of Her hubby and says, "I do things with my Lover that I will not do with my husband."
Wives also like to feel sexy, look sexy, and, after they get into the swing of things, they like to dress for sex with their Lovers and tease their hubbies. They know this turns them both on and leaves no doubt in their cuckold hubby's imaginative minds that they are going to have fun and get fucked by a Real Man's cock. It also puts them firmly in control as they flaunt their smoldering sexuality and taunt and tease their cuckold hubby with a "you can look, but only He can touch," attitude. When they package themselves for their Lovers with kissable, tasty red (or hot pink) lips, alluring perfume, made for bedroom eyes, silky clean hair, a micro-mini skirt, no panties, and a freshly shaven pussy, can there be any doubt about their intent and what is surely going to happen? Can there be any doubt that sexual power has shifted to the wife and the cuckold hubby is hanging on for a wild ride?
Some wives go even further and take sexual control and are dominant toward their cuckold hubby while being submissive to their dominant Lover(s). One such wife said, "My white wimp husband is no longer allowed any sexual contact with me, but I do absolutely everything for the Black Masters I serve."
Others love taunting their small-cocked hubby. One such wife said, "I love pointing out the difference between my husband's cock, which is average, and the amazing length and thickness of my Lover's cock, which is at least three inches longer and over an inch thicker. I love how deeply his big cock reaches, how wide it stretches me open. I can feel every inch of it go inside me and it feels soooo good!"
One take-charge woman makes her tiny 4" cocked hubby wash Her Lover's car while they fuck in their marital bed. She also gave hubby's cell phone number to Her Lover in front of hubby and told Her Lover that he can call Her hubby anytime he needs any errands done.
Another wife said She and Her Lover started calling Her hubby "tiny". She says, "he hates it, but it gets him hard." She does it in front of hubby's friends-especially women-to let them know that he's "lacking a few critical inches where a woman needs it."
Yet another wife always has hubby introduce Her Lover as "my wife's friend" when they are out together socially. She then does things with Her Lover to make them wonder just "what kind of friend" to tease and humiliate hubby in front of them.
From the ads:
The following are edited excerpts from ads from wives seeking Lovers:
Hot wife seeks well-endowed, well-build young hunk to further hubby's cuckold training. I love lingerie, stocking, and heels...
Attractive, classy, sensual wife loves to dress sexy for one or more well-endowed (and thick) gentlemen while they tease, wine, and dine me regularly. Cuckold hubby likes to watch and sometimes join in...
My cuckold hubby likes sloppy seconds. I like dressing in slut attire and being filled up hard and fast by well-endowed dominant Black men with 9+" of hard cock who can give me what my husband can't...
Cute little blonde wife loves to dress skimpy and totally give myself away bareback to assertive well-hung Black Lovers. Hubby gets to watch but he doesn't get any of this pussy anymore...
Young married blonde white female seeks tall, strong, unattached fit Black male to be my regular boyfriend/lower. Need a confident man who knows how to get what he wants and is not a sissy wimp like my cuckold husband...
Tall, shapely married white woman seeks aggressive Black Bulls to use my body for every imaginable pleasure while cuckold hubby watches. Take me, control me, and satisfy my wet craving to satisfy dominant Black males...
Sexy long-haired blonde wife with encouraging cuckold hubby wants straight-to-the-point fucking with well-hung Black men...
Married attractive curly blonde haired white woman with curvy body seeks regular kinky nasty intense encounters with assertive well-endowed Blacks who are long-lasting heavy cummers. Hubby fully supports this and sometimes watches or hears about it later...
Married but naughty sweet white wife with cuckold hubby who likes to watch seeks dark skinned Black thickly endowed men to spank me, ride me bareback and write nasty things on my sweet white body to show hubby...
Married white mother of two daughters has experience with Black sexing and wants much much more. Seeks well-endowed dark skinned discreet Black gentleman with long-lasting stamina to sex me and pleasure me in front of my cuckold hubby on a regular basis and show him first hand the pleasures of awesome Black sexing...
Beautiful strawberry blonde wants well-endowed (9-10") studly athletic very well mannered Black lover to ride me bareback and shoot your cum in me and on me everywhere. Take me in front of hubby half the time so he can learn how to give a girl a good fucking. The rest of the time, take me home so I can take tare of all your needs...
Hot, sexy, blonde wife searching for tall, well-hung Black Lovers to fuck her all night long and fill her 2-3 times a month while hubby watches...
Gorgeous part-time model with long legs and long blonde hair seeks big lean muscular well-hung Black bulls to fuck me senseless and send me to heaven while hubby watches...
Businesswoman by day becomes slutty Black cock craving whore by night. Hubby watches or lets me fuck on my own. I'm looking for young, in-shape, educated Black boyfriends with very very fat cocks over 8" in length to fuck my brains out on a regular or permanent basis. Nothing turns me on more than a 10" or 11" Black cock deep in my ass or stretching my pussy all night...
Horny attractive wife seeks slender, passively bi Black male while bi voyeur cuckold hubby watches me act like a slut for you. He sucks your cock, cleans us both up, and sometimes takes sloppy seconds...
I love the thrill of wimp hubby knowing that I'm out getting laid by Black men. I need several good-looking Black men to alternately date on weekends. Hubby's duty is to lick my pussy when I return from my dates. His only relief is to jerk off...
Attractive wife is hooked on big Black cocks and doing the nasty in front of hubby. Hubby is a submissive cuckold who only watches, cleans up, and sometimes gets sloppy-seconds...
I like to come home from a hot date and have hubby lick my wet, red, cum-filled cunt. Also like making him watch as I talk nasty and my Lover makes me cum over and over again. Size matters, and I want a 9"+ thick-possibly Black---cock. Hubby will lick and suck us both, before, during, and after...
My husband is a small-cocked cuckold, and a real wimp in bed, and is just good for cleaning up...
My young hubby loves to try and fuck the cum out of me from other men. I am starving for big 9-10" thick hard Black dick attached to good-looking in-shape long-term boyfriend who can have my pussy anytime he likes on a regular basis...
Hot and horny sexy young wife with long blonde haired and blue-eyes seeks fit, handsome, aggressive, well-hung, 9" or bigger, sexy Black men to take me hard and stretch my pussy where it has never been stretched before. Make me scream and so hot I will beg to be your personal slut to your beautiful Black cock. Cuckold hubby will watch and clean up afterwards...
I enjoy wild and kinky sex and always do my Lovers bareback as cream pies are half the fun...
Young voluptuous wife seeks Bull for no-strings-attached frenzied sex and the thrill of screwing a woman while Her husband watches...
Hottie with cuckold hubby looking for young good looking polite stud to power fuck me in front of hubby on a regular basis...
Cute wife is good Lover. Seeks nice looking well-endowed man with no less than 7.5" and thick with lots of stamina. Cuckold hubby loves cream pies and is a passive voyeur...
Blonde, always wet, wife seeks dominant male to use Her and further hubby's cuckold training...
Gorgeous wife loves men and sex and is eager to satisfy cuckold hubby's fantasies of serving younger, in-shape, well-endowed men...
Hot white wife itching to get fucked and filled by well-endowed guys-especially Black-double and triple penetrations. Take me out for drinks and bring me home to understanding hubby fully satisfied...
Hubby works week nights and likes to come home mornings to a cum-filled pussy. He can watch on weekends...
I like thick well-hung studs at least 8"-preferably more-with smooth shaved cum filled balls. I like to suck thick smooth cocks. Hubby may be allowed to watch...
Need nice looking well-hung stud boyfriends to date me regularly and to cuckold hubby. Take me out, wine me, dine me, fuck me good, fill me with your cum then take me home so I can tell hubby how a Real Man fucks me with his big cock and make him lick your cum from my dripping pussy...
I need good looking Black studs over 8" to make me beg and do the unthinkable while hubby watches and jerks off...
I am nicely shaved and like oral, anal, and bareback with long hard deep strokes from an 8"+ thick long-lasting cock to give me multiple orgasms. Hubby watches...
Attractive wife loves to turn on hubby by having him watch well-hung muscular guys have their way with me...
Hot young blonde wife needs hot guys with 8 inch or bigger cocks to fuck me while husband watches and jerks off...
Want repeat performance, well-hung mature Lover(s) who will send me home wet and sloppy to hubby on a regular basis, Sometimes he may watch...
Sweetly submissive long-haired blonde looking for take-charge boss man with good hard friends. Hubby watches you show me off...
Cock-craving little married slut loves well-hung in-shape guys to pound my pussy and ass all night while hubby listens and sleeps in the next room...
Well-built young blonde looking for hot guys with 8" or bigger cocks to fuck me while cuckold husband jacks off...
Attractive housewife slut needs attractive well-hung men to fuck while hubby watches. You need to cum in me a whole lot because hubby likes to lick it out of me while you take pictures of him doing it...
Beautiful elegant wife, physician by day, is naughty slut for hungry cocks-especially Black-at night. Older hubby waits his turn to clean up...
WIVES: WHAT DO YOU WEAR ON DATES WITH YOUR LOVER?From the polls:
WIVES: DO YOU SHAVE YOUR PUSSY?
More wives than not (58%) said that they (or their cuckold husbands) shave their pussies. Those who shave do it at least once a week, but often more than once a week.
WIVES: DOES AN ANKLET ON YOUR RIGHT ANKLE INDICATE YOUR AVAILABILITY?
Most (63%) said that an anklet on the right ankle could indicate availability if it were promoted as such. Many (32%) said it already does.
WIVES: WHAT KIND OF KINKY THINGS HAVE YOU DONE?
Many cuckoldresses like their Lovers to do kinky things to them-things they would never do with hubby- and some Lovers are quite dominant and enjoy taking charge of the cuckold's wife (and sometimes hubby too). A few wives have been tied up and/or had rough sex. Many of them have called their cuckold hubby while nude with their Lover(s) and even had hubby listen to their passionate sounds of lovemaking. Some have been made to suck off several guys, and have had pictures taken of them in the nude that their dominant Lover can use for bragging rights with his friends. Some have been tied up and fucked and some have been gang-banged by Black men and a few have been impregnated by them.
Things Lovers have done to cuckold's wives in order of most popular include:
1. Made Her call hubby while nude
2. Made Her suck off several guys
3. Taken pictures of Her in the nude
4. Tied Her up and fucked Her roughly
5. Had Her gang-banged by large Black guys
6. Had objects used in Her
7. Made to get it on with other women
WIVES: ARE YOU TURNED ON BY GOING OUT ALONE?
Though there were many who said they were turned on by going out alone (with their hubby's full knowledge and permission) with their Lover(s), more said that they like to play as a couple. Most preferred oral and vaginal sex with 2-3 men of various races. Many said that they wanted their hubby to make passionate love to them afterwards while tasting and eating Her Lover's cum.
WIVES: HOW BIG DO YOU LIKE YOUR COCK?
Most said they would like a cock over 8"and "fat as hell" in their pussy. Many said they would accept a cock over 6" and would also like to take a cock in their mouth. Fewer, but still a significant number, said they would like to have a cock in their ass. A smaller number said they wanted a cock over 10" and about an equal number said that a "plain ole average" cock would do.
WIVES: WHERE DO YOU LIKE YOUR LOVERS TO CUM ON YOU?
The top 3 choices for Lovers hot cum: 1) in Her pussy, 2) in Her mouth, 3) on Her tits. Down the list with less than half the votes of pussy were on Her ass and face. Some said all over the body, and a few selected on Her feet (probably for licking up by Her cuckold slave hubby?!)
WIVES: DO YOU ENJOY HUMILIATING A MAN WITH A SMALL PENIS?
By a large margin, most (80%) said yes, they do enjoy humiliating a tiny-cocked cuckold. (Maybe this is the reason for such quotes as: "He touches me in places and in ways that your tiny thing never will").
WIVES: WHAT AGE DO YOU PREFER YOUR LOVER?
Many wives said that age doesn't matter, but when it does, wives generally prefer their Lovers to be on the young side in the 18-35 age range, though there were some who also like 35-45. A few like older 45+, and a few others liked very young 16-18 Lovers.
WIVES: HOW OFTEN DO YOU MASTURBATE?
Perhaps as evidence of their need for sex and orgasms most wives masturbate at least once a week and typically more, either by hand or with "toys". Some do it once a day and a few even 2-3 times (or more) per day. A few never do it or only do it during sex. A few said they also like doing it outdoors or in public.
WIVES: WHICH ACTIVITIES MUST BE PART OF FIRST-TIME CUCKOLDING?
More wives also chose "cleaning me of my Lover's cum" as the activity that must be part of cuckolding their hubby for the first time. "Watching my Lover please me," is next on their list, and close behind and about equal in importance are "licking me" and getting Her ready for Her Lover, thanking Her Lover afterwards, and sucking Her Lover's cock, and cleaning up Her Lover's cock afterwards. Many also like their hubby to lick Her Lover's balls while he fucks Her. Bringing up the rear so to speak, but still significant is having Her Lover fuck hubby in the ass and having hubby wear stockings and panties. The least favorite item, but still chosen by some, is having hubby tied up while Her Lover pleases Her.
WIVES: DO YOU LET YOUR HUSBAND FUCK YOU?
In one poll, most wives (57%) said that they still let their husband fuck them though some (18%) said "only after I've been with another man." Many wives (39%) deny their hubbies sex of any kind though some (12%) let them watch while they fuck their Lovers. In another poll with the same question an overwhelming number (83%) said they "deny him the "pleasure" of regular sex.
WIVES: WHY DO YOU ENJOY TAKING A LOVER?
For wives, the number one reason they take a Lover is for the "joint fun, knowing that hubby enjoys it too." Most said they enjoy the fun with hubby after their Lover has gone. Many said, however, that they do it to get "a real man's cock for a change," or just "being with another man." Quite a few do it just to get a "decent fuck," or to tease their hubby about getting a decent fuck. Consistent with cuck's reasons, a smaller number take a Lover to get rid of frustration due to their hubby's poor performance.
WIVES: WHAT DO YOU DO AS A COUPLE WHEN ENTERTAINING HARD COCKS?
When cuckold couples entertain hard cocks it is mostly only Her fucking and sucking, but there are many couples where both fuck and suck everyone.
WIVES: WHAT SHOULD YOUR CUCKOLD HUBBY DO?
Most wives (65%) felt that their cuckold hubby should do "all of the above" including:
1) Made to do all the housework, 2) Made Her total and complete slave, and 3) Feminized and taught how to suck Her Lover's cock and take him anally. Number 3 was the most popular individual choice for many (26%) of the wives.
WIVES: DO YOU ALLOW HUBBY TO HAVE SEX WITH OTHER WOMEN?
Most wives (62%) do not let their cuckold hubbies have sex with other women, with many (30%) feeling that masturbation is enough. Some, however, do allow it when She is present (19%).
WIVES: DO YOU LET HUBBY MASTURBATE WHEN YOU CUCKOLD HIM?
While fucking their Lover in front of hubby most wives make their hubby jerk off after She and Her Lover are done as entertainment for them. While many let their hubby masturbate while watching Her take Her Lover, most make him wait until after they are done before letting him cum. Many wives generously let hubby join Her and Her Lover. A small few cruelly make him wait until the day after to cum.
WIVES: WHAT IS THE MOST HUMILIATING THING FOR HUBBY?
Licking Her Lover's cock clean after they fucked was far and away (51%) the most humiliating thing. Down the list were jacking off in front of wife and Lover (18%), licking wife's pussy clean after they fucked (14%), and sucking Her Lover's cock (13%). Seeing the wife getting fucked (4%) was in last place.
Next time: "The Tall, Dark, Stranger Syndrome"